Problem Solvers
“You are created to be a problem solver!”
This phrase invites our children back into the bigger story of living as God’s People.
It redirects their minds – when mired in troubles – toward critical thinking and constructive ends. It disciples them to become sojourners with us as we build our home culture and as we journey further into God’s Kingdom as a family.
No matter their age, it is amazing to see the change come over their countenance as they realize we, their parent, are not going to step in to fix their problem. The problem is an opportunity for them to practice being creative: to create something beautiful out of their chaos.
Recently, one of our teenage children was facing trouble. The challenge was significant. I saw it coming. I was expecting it to spill over. Instead, they took initiative and responsibility – tackling the problem and bringing it to a beautiful conclusion.
I was filled with pride. I asked myself: When did we ever equip this child to solve that sort of problem?
Our phrase immediately came to mind: You are created to be a problem solver. Years of gently mentoring them to be a co-creator and co-redeemer in God’s world had taken root. Our coaching was no longer needed.
God created each of us for the purpose of stewarding the world around us – making the things within our reach beautiful and good. When our children embody this it is a fundamental sign they are becoming His People. Living as His tribe.
If you want to try this phrase in your home here are some tips:
Equip your child beforehand with context for what the phrase means. Watch for moments to remind them: God designed you to create order and beauty wherever He has you in the world. (Genesis 2:8-15)
Be sure to discern to what degree your child does need your help. This phrase isn't intended to excuse us from loving or serving our children in critical ways.
At every age, it is often good to offer wisdom, advice, or options before setting them loose.
Your tone and body language should convey encouragement, excitement, and confidence in them.
Lastly, once you set them loose, don’t let them off the hook – especially older children. Let them struggle toward a solution and build muscle memory for future creative efforts.